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7 Things Happy Couples Do After A Fight

All couples fight—yes, even the happiest. In fact, marriage therapists say they don’t fight Everyone can be a sign that the couple is headed for a breakup.

What separates the happy couples from the less fortunate is not just how they fight (more on that here), but also what they do after the fight is over. Here’s what therapists say these couples are doing differently.

1. They stand up for their part instead of pointing fingers at them

After a fight, happy couples don’t waste time pointing blame. They are self-aware enough to see what they did wrong and mature enough to admit it to their partner.

“Happy couples fight for their share. Unhappy couples blame each other,” Northern California therapist Kurt Smith, who specializes in men’s counseling, told HuffPost. “Do you want true resolution? Then look in the mirror and own your part. Raised your voice, swore, verbally attacked your partner? own it.”

2. You apologize – and mean it

It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many couples rarely apologize to each other, Smith said. (And for the record, “I’m sorry you feel this way” doesn’t count.)

“It is so simple and yet so difficult for so many people. However, the quickest way to resolve any dispute is to simply say, ‘I’m sorry,'” he says. “We all feel respected and cared for when someone says they’re sorry for the way they treated us.”

3. They keep going even if the dispute isn’t perfectly resolved

Many relationship issues are complicated and cannot be easily resolved in a single conversation. Happy couples are able to have a disagreement, stick a pin in it, and get on with the rest of the day.

“[They] know that there will be struggles and some may need multiple discussions to reach a definitive resolution — if that’s even possible,” therapist Nicole Saunders, owner of Therapy Charlotte in North Carolina, told HuffPost. “So you know that staying in your feelings for an extended period of time is unrealistic and unhealthy. They don’t let an argument float like a dark cloud over the rest of the day or week.”

Read the full article here

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/what-happy-couples-do-after-a-fight_uk_62d00574e4b0c0bdba6716d1 7 Things Happy Couples Do After A Fight

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