Brooke Shields praises herself for raising her two daughters, Rowan, 19, and Grier, 16, after experiencing a complicated relationship with her own mother.
The 57-year-old model and actress spoke to Chelsea Handler about her motherhood journey Dear Chelsea Podcast where Shields spoke about the difficulties of raising children. “Even though I’ve always wanted to have kids, it’s really not easy,” she said of the two, who she shares with husband Chris Henchy. “Sometimes it’s just annoying to love so much.”
After addressing the reality of growing up with her mother, Teri Shields, in the 2014 memoir titled There Was a Little Girl: The True Story of My Mother and MeShields shared that she tends to look at the positive things she learned from her mother’s parenting style.
“I’d been working on myself so much in therapy for decades that I was focusing on the things I wanted to replicate, not just the things I didn’t want to replicate,” Shields said, noting that there’s a comparison would be in vain as her mother “was so broken and couldn’t do the work on herself or for herself”.
Shield’s mother was the actress’ manager for a time, but behind closed doors was an alcoholic who Shields said put her in precarious situations as a teenager. In 2012, Teri died at the age of 79 from an illness related to dementia.
“I think her humor was so important. Her willingness to have fun with me, her belief that I should always be around someone my own age, even in this industry,” Shields continued. “Your very open way of discussing anything. You know she was brave and that really protected me and that’s why I try to remember those things.”
Shields has made efforts to appear different from her mother, including “being careful with my drinking because I know that [alcoholism] It’s in my blood.” The mother-of-two has also maintained an open flow of communication with her daughters that she ever had with her mother.
“I’m amazed at how much emotional freedom I give my kids. I never thought I would talk to them about sex…because my mom never talked to me about anything. They were just told, ‘Don’t do it, you’re going to burn in hell,’ and then I kind of became known for being a virgin,” Shields mused. “We talk about everything together and I have no judgment and I’m shocked at myself. I mean we talk about everything and I didn’t think I would be comfortable with that on that level.”
Shields has previously spoken about carrying “the responsibility of keeping my mother alive‘ as a young girl, telling Handler she’s making her role as a mother and intimate confidant very clear now.
“I always say it’s important that you have an ally in your life at these times because you’re going to need them. And who is better than your mother?” she said. “I’ll always be here, whatever it is. I say, ‘But don’t be an idiot.’”
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