Stage 4 brain tumor: Man has three months to live after terminal cancer diagnosis
One woman has shared the heartache that her ‘soulmate’ has just three months to live – and says he’s already starting to forget his family.
A few months ago, Kirsty Chorlton was devastated when she asked her husband Wayne about their wedding anniversary and he couldn’t remember any details about the special event.
The loss of his memories is the latest tragic symptom to hit the father of two, who is suffering from butterfly glioma, a rare tumor that is slowly gnawing away at his brain.
Ms Kirsty, 34, is now sharing her story to raise awareness and raise funds so they can create memories alongside their daughters Daisy-Marie and Evie, aged four and two, who recently renewed their vows, their Husband aged 37 giving new memories of their wedding.
“Hearing the love of my life had cancer was my worst fear that came true,” the mum, who is a full-time carer from Porth, Wales, told NeedToKnow.Online.
“Actually, the news broke me, but my first reaction was that he was going to die and I was going to lose him.
“Now we are completely devastated as a family as his memory has gotten really bad and he can’t remember much of his daily routine or big life moments.
“I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy and I can’t believe this is happening.
“Wayne is [so young] and we should spend the rest of our lives together, it doesn’t feel real knowing that one day I’ll have to bury my soulmate, the father of my children.
“I’m scared to death of the unknown, but our vow renewal was the best day ever.
“It was so nice to get out and enjoy our day while we forget everything for a while — but most importantly, Wayne really loved the day.”
Kirsty and Wayne began their love story in April 2010 and instantly felt a connection — and just eight months later, he popped the question.
Soon after, they welcomed their two daughters in October 2018 and November 2020 respectively and life was good.
However, it all came crashing down in December 2014 when Wayne started having “blinding headaches” that caused him to collapse and start acting out of character, like drinking hand soap.
Wayne originally claims he was told the symptoms were due to a migraine, but after visiting an optometrist and having multiple PET scans and MRIs, his diagnosis was confirmed.
Over the next six years, the father underwent invasive radiation and chemotherapy treatments to see his little girls grow up.
Tragically, in February 2023, the family was told that the tumor was no longer responding to treatments.
Speaking of the tragic ordeal, Kirsty said: “It was very draining, especially being told his cancer was terminal and had spread to the rest of his brain, possibly including his spinal cord.
“A few months ago Wayne suffered a two hour seizure where I was told he would be dead in the next few hours.
“He was unresponsive for over 30 hours before regaining consciousness, but I think that has degraded his memory.”
Kirsty was told to ask her husband routine questions to keep his brain active, but she quickly found he remembered little to nothing of the biggest moments of his life.
She said: “It was awful because I kept having to remind him that his nana had died and I knew from that moment he couldn’t remember anything beyond that date.
“I asked him about our wedding anniversary and the only thing he could remember was the date but not our special day at all.
“It broke me completely because I’ve never seen him like that before.
“Now he can’t remember our children’s births or their birthdays, it’s such a sad situation to be in and it’s heartbreaking for all of us, especially Wayne.”
Kirsty’s mum Kathleen has started GoFundMe to raise £3,000 for her son-in-law so he can make memories with his family, with donations totaling £2,100 so far.
Kirsty added: “I’m scared of raising my kids without him and I’m scared they won’t remember him.
“Our youngest doesn’t really get it and our oldest is nonverbal autistic so she doesn’t get it either but when the time comes I know it’s going to break their hearts.
“It breaks my heart that I can’t stop this from happening to him, but I love Wayne so much.
“I wouldn’t be anywhere but by his side as it’s always been the two of us for the past 13 years and I will continue to be here until the unthinkable day comes.”
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