Every day seems longer and harder and yes, while it’s great that we can spend more time with our kids, it’s hardly quality time. It’s rushed, it’s stressful and it’s absolutely awful for them to be penned in too. When you work there is the luxury of just taking a break with them or playing in the garden or taking a TV break together.
Working from home doesn’t look like it. Working from home means actually having to work. It is not appropriate work in the home school environment. Equally and crucially, caring for, educating and nurturing a child is not something that can be simply thrown in alongside work – they deserve and need better than that.
In my mind, I can’t shake the feeling that this pandemic has set working mothers back 30 years. Preferring children to work or vice versa – because it is clear that we cannot have everything and should not do everything either. The simple fact is that for so many women, once we have children (or simply because we are women and are affected by the gender pay gap), we earn less than our husbands.
My husband’s job therefore needs to be ‘protected’ and while he does whatever it takes to help between his own work demands, endless calls and working into the wee hours during lockdown, the burden of homeschooling falls primarily on me, eh to so many working moms and stay-at-home moms who have chosen to sacrifice their own careers for the sake of their families.
I’m fortunate to work in a place that supports flexibility and respects competing demands, but not even my employer has made me unavailable during the day because I’m struggling with Zoom lessons or watching YouTube videos, to teach myself long-distance again or to prepare the tenth snack of the day.
Where are working mothers? Those in need of help, support and schools and kindergartens should remain open. Good luck to all the other moms (and dads) in the same boat. It won’t last forever…
Are you a working mom juggling job, parenthood and homeschooling? How does this lockdown compare to the previous ones? What do you think should be done to help those affected? Let us know how you are doing in the comments below.
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/work/men-power-have-zero-comprehension-pressure-working-mothers-facing/ The men in power have zero comprehension of the pressure working mothers are facing