You may need a blanket and a bobble hat. Your conversational skills may be rusty. And flirting – what is that anyway? With al fresco dining legal again, we all need to eat dinner together as a matter of urgency, says leading divorce attorney Ayesha Vardag (vardags.com).
She believes that date night — no matter how much those two words make you cringe — is essential not only for the health of our relationships but also for our self-esteem.
“Even if you’re sick of the sight, now is the time to cleanse and seduce your partner again over a drink, dinner, or passeggiata in the park,” she says. Lockdown has sparked sparks in many relationships, agrees Harry Benson, founder of the Marriage Foundation and author of What Mums Want (and Dads Need to Know). “We found that we acted like roommates — we lost the romance,” he says.
Pre-lockdown research by the Marriage Foundation suggests a third of divorcing couples blame their split on “drifting apart”; now the culprit is more like saturation. “We see a lot of lockdown divorces because people are so damn bored,” claims Vardag. “There’s no passion killer like bickering about being in a confined space.”
Done right, a date is an easy way to recapture the frisson. “Sitting together in romantic light as the shadows lengthen reminds us why we caught up with this irritating person we’ve spent the last five months hopping onto the sofa,” Vardag continues.
You don’t have to spend a fortune on good food to feel love again. A walk in the woods, a bike ride, or a picnic in the park can be very romantic when it’s just the two of you, without distractions like work, kids, and phones.
Often the most unexpected nights—standing room only theater tickets, a bike ride in the rain—are the most intimate. George Rawlings, founder of new dating app Thursday, is all for the de-formalization of dating. “Get creative and be spontaneous,” he says. “Dinner is great, but so is a gin and tonic by the river or a coffee together at lunchtime.”
As of today, cultural appointments such as cinema and theater as well as experiences such as wine tasting and boat trips are possible again. However, as with most things in life, the more effort you put into your date, the more successful it will be.
Take turns coming up with a new idea and making all the arrangements (apps like Bubble can help find a babysitter if needed); On the day itself, wash your hair and dress in something that makes you feel like your brightest self, advises Vardag.
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